In Surprised By Joy, C.S.
Lewis wrote, “With my mother’s death all settled happiness, all that was
tranquil and reliable, disappeared from my life . . . no more of the old
security. It was sea and islands now;
the great continent had sunk like Atlantis.”
Lewis was just 9 years old when his mother died, and I’ve always been
struck by the picture of his mother’s death being like the sinking of a
continent.
No matter how old you are when you
lose a parent, their death leaves you feeling like an orphan. If you’re older when this happens, you
probably realize that you have lost a person who loved you with a unique intensity
from anyone else on earth.
Ursula Hegi wrote a collection of
short stories titled Hotel of Saints.
One of the stories titled “Freitod” tells of a woman suffering from a
terminal illness who chooses to end her life.
As the woman describes her love for her two grown children, she says, “You
love your children far more than you ever loved your parents, and – in that
love, and in the recognition that your own children cannot fathom the depth of
your love – you come to understand the tragic, unrequited love of your own
parents.”
It’s sobering to realize that your
own mother carried a vast love for you, and you never realized what that love
was like until you had children of your own.
I don’t make this observation of the lopsided love to scold adults into
ramping up their demonstration of love for their parents (although most
parent/child relationships could stand some of this, especially as the parent
ages). I make the observation that this
lopsided love - just is. Maybe it’s another
manifestation of the fallen world we live in.
But maybe it’s also a picture of our
relationship with God. Most of us view
God from a childlike perspective. He’s
the caretaker who provides for all of our needs. How often do we contemplate the immensity of
His love for us compared to what we give Him in return?
Even though our parents die, our continents
sink, maybe they were a small picture of the vast, everlasting love of God. Our returned love is completely overshadowed by
His love for us. And that’s just how it
is.
Thank you, Elisabeth Elliot, for how
you always opened your broadcasts - “You are loved with an everlasting love. .
. And underneath are the everlasting arms.” (Jeremiah 31:3 and Deuteronomy
33:27)
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